Yes, I Have Kids- And Here’s Why You Don’t See Them Often Online.

The other day, I posted a video on TikTok about innate parenting.

And someone commented: “Do you even have kids?”

So if you’re new to my space- especially on platforms like TikTok, where it’s mostly just me or sometimes my youngest- it might actually look like I don’t have older children at all. But I do.

I am a homeschooling mom of three. My kids span from toddlerhood to the teen years, and I’ve been walking this unschooling path for well over a decade. My older daughters? They’re very much here just not always visible.

About a year ago, I began to feel a quiet shift.

It wasn’t prompted by a single event. It came from listening to my daughters and a feeling I had of showing up differently in online spaces.

They started noticing that when we met with others- they somehow knew a lot about what they were up to. They didn’t like that.

They like their privacy.

They love that people don’t know every detail of their lives.

They feel good being able to share their days, thoughts, and ideas in their own time- in their own words.

I love that for them. I was on board. So became the slow shift.

Bit by bit, I pulled back from publicly sharing so much about their day to day lives. To be honest- there was a point where I paused and thought, “Wait… what do I talk about now or what will I share about?”

For so long, the heart of what I shared was shaped by our life together. Their passions, questions, and spark guided so much of my learning and my voice.

What I came to realize and embody more recently was that this is the growth I was meant to step into, in its own time.

During this time when this shift was happening, I was also deep in study and new language came online for me. A language of lived experience, not just day to day snapshots. A language of teaching the path I’ve walked and lived.

Stepping fully into the truest form of who I am- a woman rooted in her own knowing, shaped by a decade plus of mothering, softened by listening, and strengthened by truth.

Now, most of what I share is me- facing the camera, sharing what I’ve learned and trusting the process.

You’ll still find glimpses of our daily life (especially in July as all my kids birthdays are now), and sometimes my youngest will show up beside me, but the center of gravity has changed.

I’m speaking from the well, not just showing you the water.

And here’s the beautiful part that I’m so curious and open to- there have been conversations in our home about creating together one day. My oldest daughter has such a beautiful mind- the way she thinks reminds me of myself. She's only 13 but she understands so much more than one would think. She sees patterns and feels deeply with important conversation starters that keep us up talking for hours.

Maybe one day we’ll share that together for the world to hear. If and when they’re ready, I’ll be there to hold space for it.

But for now, this chapter belongs to them- and to me.

So yes… I do have kids. I’ve been walking this path with them for a long time.

And just because you don’t see them all the time doesn’t mean they aren’t woven into everything I say.

They are.

They always have been.

They always will be.

Krystal <3