When To Speak & When to Alchemize
Repair as a sacred practice
Teaching from the shamanic path of conflict
There are moments in our relationships where pain rises. Words land with a sting. Energy shifts. We feel it in the body, and we know- something is happening here.
But on the shamanic path, this isn’t just conflict.
It’s initiation.
We’re not here to flinch away. We’re here to listen deeply to the soul beneath the surface of the moment. And that includes listening inward. Not all pain needs to be spoken out loud. Not all ruptures require immediate repair with the other. Some are sacred invitations to go inward and extract the deeper teaching.
There are two ways to meet this:
Repair Within (The Alchemical Path)
This path is long. Sometimes lonely. But potent. You descend, sometimes all the way to the underworld, and let the experience work you. You unravel the trigger, meet the shadow, reclaim what was lost. You learn. You transform. You return new. This is where the experience becomes medicine. Not performance. No need to be understood. Just you and the divine forces working something out in the sacred silence of your inner world. This path isn’t “less than.” In fact, it often leads to the deepest integration. You may never speak a word of it to the person involved, and yet- you feel whole. The web mends itself through spirit.
Repair Through Truth (The Relational Path)
Sometimes, the other person comes forward. They ask. They open the door. And truth becomes the bridge. Or you feel called to share how this all landed with you. This doesn’t mean blame. This doesnt’t mean a full recounting of the story. This means speaking only what is needed, and only if your body says it is complete enough to do so. If shared form a grounded place- after the emotion has metabolized- truth can become a healing agent for both. You walk it together. But only when it’s ripe.
The Key is Discernment
I’ve been sitting with a new word. Discernment. I first read about it in Gene Key 13. The gift of this key is Discernment. Because all Gene Keys carry a shadow, gift and siddhi frequency.
Hearing is acoustic- it happens automatically. But listening is sacred. Listening happens with your whole being. It’s when you lean in with presence, attunement, and openness- not just to the other person, but to the moment, to life, to what’s underneath.
When we operate from discord, we miss things. We interpret through fear. We reach instead of reflect. We seek to be heard but not to hear. This is the shadow.
Through the shadow there is another path- the path of Discernment. And this is where I’ve found myself lately, not fully mastering it, but sitting in it. Learning what it feels like to wait. To let the moment breathe.
Discernment doesn’t rush. It listens. It tracks. It feels into the timing of things. A subtle but powerful guide in how to move through repair. It’s teaching me that repair is less about having the right words, and more about knowing when and whether they’re even meant to be spoken.
This is where I’m learning that repair is a sacred practice, not an obligation. I get to do this.
Let’s take a peek into the Siddhi of Empathy. This is the highest frequency of Gene Key 13. The third tier, not many make it to the second. It’s the field where words dissolve, and understanding becomes vibrational. It’s a state beyond personal opinion or storyline.
This isn’t just a concept for me- Gene Key 13 is my North Node in Human Design, the very direction my soul is maturing into in this life.
It’s the energy of becoming a vessel for deep listening, relational healing, and transmutation of pain into wisdom.
Just a few days ago, after sitting with some of the very dynamics I’ve written about here, a teaching began to flow through me- a mini course on how to alchemize conflict. Not from a place of fixing or controlling, but from the sacred seat of discernment, repair, and embodied empathy.
It’s still coming together, but it’s coming.
The path of conflict and repair is not linear. It’s a spiral. One that continues to return us to ourselves. Offering deeper layers of awareness each time we meet it with presence instead of performance.
And the way we move through conflict now is never separate from how it first lived in us. How conflict was handled in childhood. What we learned it meant to speak, to stay silent, to rupture, to repair.
Where we are on our personal path. What we’ve been taught to protect and what we’re just now learning to release.
It’s all in there. Woven together in a tapestry of wounding, wisdom, and becoming. And it will continue to unravel and reweave itself as we grow- not all at once, but slowly, in sacred timing. With discernment. With grace. With practice.
Offerings:
Upcoming Mini Course on just this:)
Gene Key Sessions- If you loved the deeper insight into Gene Key 13, I offer sessions that take you through the keys uniquely highlighted in your chart- like GK 13 as my own North Node. These are not surface readings. They are invitations into your essence.
XO
