I did’t meet the moment well. Story time and the law of 3 teaching
Eating this teaching for breakfast after I ruptured a few days ago when my daughter hit me with her belief and I met her by denying her reality.
I didn't learn everything I know now by watching and listening to someone else.
It’s trying the teaching on.
That’s when I learned how I ticked. My triggers. My strengths.
I homeschool- so all of me and all of them comes up to the surface. The dark and the light.
That is why I say my biggest teachers are my kids. Been home with them for the last 13 years.
Everyday I began to put these teachings to work. Experiment.
I had nothing to loose and everything to gain.
Triggers happen and the goal is to stop and be able to witness myself before reaction.
The pause before action.
That’s it. But also remembering not to shame myself for not doing this 100% of the time becauseI’m human.
A few days ago I had a moment of rupture. A moment where I didn’t stop and ask myself before reacting.
One of the reasons I’ve been so hot about cutting the suffering out of my life (per my last social media share) is because I want to live with the action of doing or not doing and to pay attention to where I go into story. Where I cause my own suffering.
My daughter holds this belief, that nothing is fair. I see her saying this often when we ask her to do something.
I’m going to explain the 3 options we have through the law of three. The law of three says every event or situation has three forces at play. Affirming force, denying force, and reconciling/netural force.
Using the example of my daughter stating- this isn’t fair…
Affirming- collapsing into that belief which looks like - literally agreeing, over-validating, reorganizing reality so she doesn’t feel the discomfort.
Denying - fighting the belief. This is where we meet- It’s not fair with logic, lectures, reality checks, life isn’t fair speeches (oh this is golden for me haha been there done that), sharpness or dismissal.
But the third one is the holy of holies. It’s the path to not taking someones energy as your own. It’s where we can step out of ourselves and see clearly. Not be entangled with the other and their experience. The path of no suffering.
The reconciling/neutral force- staying present without entering the story. Being the witness and practicing non identification.
Honestly the first 2 ways are just arguing with reality, just in different flavors.
Arguing with reality.
I’ve met her in this way before. It’s so quick.
It sounds like this-
Daughter- This is so unfair
Me- I see that you are experiencing unfairness
Boom. Done. Nothing else. Or just listening as she shares that experience more.
I love when I can stop before reacting and do just that. Then we all just go about our day. I keep my power by not leaking it all over and just witnessing her on her journey. No fixing. Just witnessing.
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XO Krystal
